The dress code is easy.

Try to dress fetish -- larger parties/events will have a $5 party pooper fee for people looking like they came from work.  Refer to calendar for details.

Stay dressed until another person asks/TELLS you to get naked. DO NOT sit in the corner and pleasure yourself (again, unless another asks/TELLS you to).  Sex and sexual acts are permitted and encouraged; however, masturbating lurkers are just creepy, unless it's Masturbating Lurker Night; to set up such an event, please inquire. :) EXCEPTION -- Mon, Wed, and Fri F2F has a Lunch Cruising Club where you can take off your clothes and jump in and have fun.  Simple tip... When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

Your first visit to an SM dungeon environment can be a memorable and truly mind-blowing experience. But please take care NOT to spoil it for other people...

1) DO NOT interfere with couples or groups who are doing a scene together. It is bad manners to crowd them or to try and push in. If they want you, you will be invited.

2) DO NOT walk between a dominant and a submissive while corporal punishment is taking place. You WILL get accidentally hurt. Likewise do not walk behind the dominant as he/she is swinging back and taking aim. If you are hit accidentally, you have only yourself to blame.

3) DO NOT touch other people's equipment, clothes, toys or their slaves. If you want to borrow something always ASK first. And make sure you return it afterwards.

4) DO NOT lounge around or sit on the bondage benches and dungeon furniture. Find a chair. While you are sitting on the play furniture waiting to see some action taking place, genuine players cannot use the equipment for its primary purpose. Benches are for beating arses, not resting arses!

5) ALWAYS carry TWO good quality condoms with you. That's one for you and one for your friend who forgot one. We all have a social responsibilty to stop the spread of HIV, hepatitis and sexually transmitted diseases. F2F also provides condoms and lube in the bathrooms for all events.

If you are walking about in an area where various scenes are going on... be aware where you are going and what you may be walking into including the backflip of a flogger or single tail... I have seen some get hit with both because they were focusing on a scene or not watching where they were going.

If you are watching a scene, find a place that is assured to be out of the way and stay still, either standing, sitting, kneeling or whatever.

If you see someone taking a sub down that is in 'sub drop', don't think that you are required by some rule to go running across the room to help out, especially if there are already three or more others right there and preparing or already helping do so. I nearly wiped out one Dom's face with a flogger because he was running across the room with a blanket to 'help' a sub that was already in a chair and covered, and ran right between me and my sub.

If you are going to talk, keep it low unless you are invited to 'participate' in the scene by the Dom/me by expressing your comments. And remember, just because you are talking low doesn't mean there aren't 20 others doing the same thing as well and creating a "buzzing" sound that gets into a sub's mind at times.

When using an area keep your toys where you can use them... don't be going back and forth across the room all the time to get something else and then increasing the chances of you disrupting someone else's scene.

After... and I emphasize AFTER the sub has recovered from the scene, move off to some neutral area and pick up your things and clean off the equipment fully with the things that most places provide for doing so. Hanging out and socializing with others can be done elsewhere and allow someone else to have just as much fun as you did. And I certainly don't need to remind you to remove whatever liquids were left behind after you, before I begin creating my own.

If you want to play, ask and take the response politely and absolutely... although there IS a time that begging will work on me, I must admit.  ;)

And finally, and this is the one that nearly led me to assaulting someone, don't try to sneak a cheap thrill or satisfy your own needs by placing yourself in someone else's scene.

I once had a guy place a chair close to the side of the 'hangers' I had my subs on. I couldn't understand how I was consistently missing my mark with the flogger on one sub's side over and
over again. Turns out that I did not see (because I was in Dom tunnel vision while playing) that this idiot had started holding up his hand and catching the very tips of my flogger as I passed it back and forth.

One of the other members walked up behind me and got my attention to point that out and then went and got a couple of the DMs for me while I worked at controlling myself and not disrupting the entire place by wrapping my hands around his throat and participating in some non-consensual breath play.

Sir Thomas Moore